Ep 811 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns (Even After Years of Healing) w/ Dr. Nicole LaPera, The Holistic Psychologist

July 23, 2026
Abundance, Money, Podcast, Podcast Guest, Success

Have you ever noticed that you can understand exactly why you do something, know where the pattern came from, and still find yourself repeating it?

If you’ve spent years doing the inner work, reading the books, listening to the podcasts, and becoming more self-aware, yet still feel frustrated by recurring patterns in your relationships, habits, mindset, or behavior, this conversation is for you.

In this powerful episode, Tiffany sits down with Dr. Nicole LaPera, better known as The Holistic Psychologist, to explore one of the biggest misconceptions in healing and personal growth: the belief that awareness alone creates transformation.

Together, they dive into inner child healing, reparenting yourself, self-sabotage myths, behavior change, childhood conditioning, and why so many people remain stuck in familiar patterns despite years of self-development work. Dr. LaPera also shares practical insights on how to create lasting change, build new habits, and move from understanding your patterns to actually transforming them.

Have you ever noticed that you can understand exactly why you do something, know where the pattern came from, and still find yourself repeating it?

If you’ve spent years doing the inner work, reading the books, listening to the podcasts, and becoming more self-aware, yet still feel frustrated by recurring patterns in your relationships, habits, mindset, or behavior, this conversation is for you.

In this powerful episode, Tiffany sits down with Dr. Nicole LaPera, better known as The Holistic Psychologist, to explore one of the biggest misconceptions in healing and personal growth: the belief that awareness alone creates transformation.

Together, they dive into inner child healing, reparenting yourself, self-sabotage myths, behavior change, childhood conditioning, and why so many people remain stuck in familiar patterns despite years of self-development work. Dr. LaPera also shares practical insights on how to create lasting change, build new habits, and move from understanding your patterns to actually transforming them.

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Dr. Nicole LaPera’s work blends clinical psychology with holistic principles, empowering you to become your own healer. She’s the founder of Self Healers Circle and the #1 The New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work and How to Be the Love You Seek.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

Why awareness alone doesn’t create lasting change
The biggest misconception people have about healing
Why self-awareness isn’t enough to break old patterns
Inner child healing and reparenting yourself
The connection between childhood conditioning and adult behaviors
Self-sabotage myths that keep people repeating the same cycles
How to build habits that support real transformation
Why consistency matters more than insight
How to move from understanding your patterns to changing them

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